It’s all about perspective: getting older

perspective [pəˈspɛktɪv]

n

1. a way of regarding situations, facts, etc., and judging their relative importance
2. the proper or accurate point of view or the ability to see it; objectivity – try to get some perspective on your troubles
 

(Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003)

I love finding quotes that put things into perspective and I often find myself seeking out quotes on ‘getting older’ when writing birthday cards for friends and family, almost as if to ease the pain of growing old and help people look at getting older in a more positive light.

One such quote that I came across the other day was by (the quite simply wonderful) George Clooney:

“But I’m kind of comfortable with getting older because it’s better than the other option, which is being dead. So I’ll take getting older.”

Well, it doesn’t get more brutal than that does it! ;-)

The thing about getting older is this: it’s an unavoidable part of life and as much as one might try to resist it, the ageing process is inevitable. So it is up to us whether we embrace it or try to run away from it (knowing it will always catch up with us of course).

For me, on the one hand I love the experience that comes with getting older, that I can see ‘some’ things with more clarity, judge ‘some’ things/people/situations better than I know I would have done when I was younger and being able to pass on this information/advice to my children. This is particularly the case with my daughter who is 9 and already starting to come face to face with complicated friendships/relationships, discovering boys, study worries, etc. and I’m happy that I have plenty of life experience and advice to hand down to her. On the other hand, I don’t enjoy the endless conversations with my children that go something like: “When I’m 10/12/18, how old will YOU be?” Then a slight panic sets in at this idea of life fast forwarding like that, but I do the sums, give my answer and quickly change the subject :-D In fact, the question yesterday was “How old will you be when I’m 51?” I almost started hyperventilating at this one :-)

The best way to find fresh perspective on getting older (as cliched as it sounds) is to take each day as it comes and don’t play “fast forward the years” with your children! Be grateful that you’re here – not to sound too morbid – be grateful for your good health, for your happy memories, your family, that you are still experiencing new things and don’t put a number on anything, don’t limit yourself with numbers. I’m 37 but I’m not grown up yet, not really.

 

 [Photo credit: Culture Label.com]

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6 thoughts on “It’s all about perspective: getting older

  1. Ah, the wisdom of your words … (and of the fabulous George Clooney)
    I do find getting older hard to accept at times, I guess nothing is truly problematic yet, but I find the prospect of my faculties declining rather scary.
    But I guess there’s no alternative, really ;) ! x

    • Yes, George, not just handsome but full of wisdom too ;-) The secret to getting older is not to “think” about it about too much bcos we can’t change the inevitable. I’m not saying I love seeing wrinkles appear and my once plump skin start to sag :-D but the only way forward is to focus on what getting older brings you in a good way and to be grateful to be here and healthy. This has been highlighted v much to me this year with a good friend being v ill and my dad too and that helps v much to put things into perspective xxx

    • Thanks for your comment and for stopping by! You’re right :-) I feel a good decade younger than I am (apart from in the morning!) and sometimes can’t even believe I have children :-D Time sure does fly but I’m happy and healthy so no complaints from me :-) xx

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